Tissue Organ Donor

So today I learned that all the tissue, bone and veins that Clenton donated, as he was an organ donor cannot be donated.  They had already sent one good heart valve to California in April and they could not use it.  Since he died instantly his other organs were not able to be used.  He was an organ donor since he got his driver’s license in high school.  Though the morning I found out about the crash I still had to go over things with the American Tissue Foundation and I did exactly what Clenton would have wanted me to do.   I have spoken with a woman with the Tissue Foundation before and she is a very kind woman.  Today she called me to give me the news and  she hated to give me the news, as she knew that whatever I could find out about him helping someone else give me a little bit of piece.   But due to the lack of blood they were not able to get accurate testing done on the bones, tissues or veins and due to federal guidelines nothing was able to be used, he could of helped 50 to 70 people, but now no one gets his help, because the drunk driver that murdered him, his girlfriend and two others mangled them.    It was just another punch in the gut as we await what is going to happen with Brysen Wills, the mass murderer and I call him that because that is the definition of someone who kills 4 people.   It’s been an emotional up and down day for me, but I’ll keep fighting.   And thank you Jeanette at the Tissue Foundation for being so kind and telling me I can call her anytime to talk.

Marla

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We thank you all for your continued support.  We have an uphill battle and it’s not going to be easy, but Marla and I are determined to make a difference in the State of Wisconsin. Our family members are more than statistics. They deserve to be treated with respect and dignity and we are here to make sure that happens.

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Eliminate Drunk Driving’s 1st Fundraising Event Was A Huge Success

Garage SaleOn June 16th and June 17th, Eliminate Drunk Driving Inc. had their first Fundraising Garage Sale. It was a huge success!

We want to thank the community of Waterloo for being so supportive and helping us raise $785.85.  All proceeds from this garage sale will go directly into our non-profit to help us travel throughout the state and educate our youth on the importance of making good decisions, meet with law enforcement, meet with local government, attend community events and work with other organizations with the same cause.

We will be in Lake Mills on Tuesday, June 20th, from 6:00 to 8:30 for the 2017 Night Out Against Crime that the Lake Mills Police Department puts on.  It will be at the Lake Mills High School Auditorium Parking Lot, 615 Catlin Drive. We hope to see you there.

If anyone would like to donate, please visit http://www.EliminateDrunkDriving.com.  Or, if anyone would like us to attend their event and speak out against drinking and driving, please email us as EliminateDrunkDriving@gmail.com.

Once again, we thank everyone for their support.  Together, we can make change. Remember, We’re NOT AGAINST drinking, We’re AGAINST DRINKING & DRIVING.

Caralee Butzine – #VictimsofDrunkDriversLivesMatter

 

 

 

My Best Friend Katey

Katey and Rhiannon
My name is Rhiannon. This has taken me sometime to think about. Its hard to put how I feel into words that people besides myself can understand.
What do I say about my Best Friend Katey? She was the brightest person I knew. She always had this light and that spread into everyone around her. She touched so many different types of people on so many different levels. I don’t think Katey had one enemy. I don’t think she ever met anyone who didn’t like her. She was my go to girl. Katey was my guiding light.
We met as adult women and we just meshed. From the start our friendship was special and treasured. I have always been a believer in everything happens for a reason. Soulmates. You meet people when your meant to and not a minute before. And destiny! We were meant to be friends. She blended in so well with my family. She was my sister from another mister! Katey was a friend to my husband and always tried to help out by defending his side, helping me see the dark-side if you will, when I was acting crazy!
She was a fun loving friend to my littles who thought Katey was a jungle gym. They knew exactly how to make her giggle even when they were being naughty. I can’t even count the times she had to leave the room because she couldn’t stop laughing! She was a friend and confidante to my oldest daughter who is now 16 so you can imagine. She was a shoulder for her to cry on, an advice giver, someone she knew she could count on. She helped me by helping remember what it was like to be a teenager. She was one of the most special and loved people in our lives.
November 2, 2016 changed our lives forever. My children lost a friend. My husband lost his ally and I lost a sister. When I was told my Best Friend, my Sister, one of the most important people in my life died in a car accident I died inside. A huge gaping hole was ripped into my chest and I couldn’t breath. My world stopped. I have never felt so lost in my entire life. I have lost people before. My loved ones who have had a chance to live, have a family, people who lived long lives. I have never dealt with a death of this magnitude. Losing Katey made me doubt everything I believed in. The most wonderful girl I had ever met. The most responsible. The most thoughtful person I have ever known was ripped out of her life. Out of my life. I couldn’t wrap my head around it. I would never ever again hear her call me friend or hear her laugh. I would never again have another girls trip or go to a movie opening. We would never read the same books again or cook dinner together.
I couldn’t think of anything else but why? Or if she knew? Why her life? Why were the life of these kids who would’ve literally made this world a better place taken? Katey Pasqualini, Clenton Hall, Kim Radtke, and Patrick Wasielewski, they were taken too soon out of a life they deserved to live. So many disgusting people walk this earth. People who abuse and kill. These are the lucky ones, the ones the world needs. Give me a break universe. The brightest ones gets taken from it. I didn’t get it, Why? This question has plagued my mind for months.  I was so sad. I could barely keep it together. I forgot how to laugh and I started forgetting how to live. I was literally drowning in sorrow. I had nightmares I lived in my mind. I wasn’t the same. I felt like no one understood. A death of four, young, bright as the sun lives were taken by one selfish man. A man who was careless and stupid.
I want drunk driving laws to be stricter for these types of people who can’t make a responsible choice. People who don’t have a limit, people who think they can drive. It’s ridiculous. This man thought he could drive. No one should have the right to take another life. Please help with this fight. It’s worth every letter, every call, for one less family, one less friend to have to feel this way.
There will not be ONE day that goes by that I won’t miss my friend. She was too special not to miss! Something happens almost everyday that I want to tell her. That will never stop. My hole is still there. Healing some days then ripped wide open again. This is something that will be here forever. I’ve been learning how to deal with it better. I can remember happy things now, it’s not all sad.
I Love You Katey! I Miss You Friend!
Rhiannon Stetter, Pell Lake

One Mother’s Hope that other Parents Don’t Have to go though This

Sam
On October 7, 2016 a drunk driver going the wrong way on a divided highway hit my daughter Sam and her best friend, Hannah, head-on.
Hannah died on impact. Sam had to be extracted from the vehicle with the jaws of life and was in the ICU with multiple serious injuries.
Both girls were 16 at the time of the crash. Seeing my daughter on a ventilator and then learning her friend died is something I don’t want other parents to ever have to go through!!!!
– Terri Lannan, Fort Atkinson

June 8th 2017- Angry and Mad

Sitting here tonight, reading the report of the crash when they charged Brysen Wills for killing Clenton, Katey, Kim and Patrick and for causing great bodily injury to Brian makes me sick to my stomach.  I am so angry as Clenton and Katey and the others are not living out their futures.  I checked in on Charles to see how he was doing this afternoon, he has been Clenton’s friend since grade school and roommates in college.  They lived together in Milwaukee for two years since Clenton graduated college, Katey was living there also for about 5 months before the crash.   Charles said he has the next five days off and him and the gang are going up north tomorrow, about 20 of them.  If Clenton and Katey were still here I am sure they would be with them.  But no, a drunken driver Brysen Wills took their future away from them.   Charles is excited about going and I am happy about that, he also has been greatly affected by this along with Clenton and Katey’s other friends.  One person being a irresponsible drunk that changed so many lives and NOT FOR THE GOOD.   I feel now it would have been better if the drunk driver did not survive the crash, but now that he did… I want him to never see the light of day again.   My heart is broken.     Marla

The Unheard Financial Hardships of a Victim’s Family

My story begins in 1966 when a drunk rear-ended my husband’s car as he was coming home from work. He was so close to home he could have walked.

Our children were eight, nine and two years old. The drunk had no insurance and a large family. We had no place to turn to but welfare which is very hard to accept, but we had no choice. The Lord provided all we needed and the church helped us with food, etc.

My husband was in the hospital nine months and after returning home we had problems. After 13 years, we divorced and all of this affected the kids. I am very proud of them today. They have grown into wonderful adults.

The drunk driver got a $50 fine and 2 days in jail. He had no concern for the family. I feel he should of at least had to pay something to the family the rest of his life to remind him every month what he did.

Marge Greenheck, Madison WI

Hit head-on by a drunk driver

In February of 2013, I was headed home to Deforest on Hwy 51 and a drunk driver came into my lane hitting me head on. The impact often replays in my head when I’m in a car. I was 10 weeks pregnant.

The drunk driver lost his life and it would have been his 4th OWI. I was pinned in my car as my driver’s side tire had crushed my left foot. I remember feeling so terrified, the smoke and chemicals from the airbags made me think my car was going to start on fire and I couldn’t get out. Other drivers pulled over, but no one came to me as I was screaming out my window. I had no idea what had happened and all I could think about was losing my child. Eventually, a sheriff arrived and then they used the jaws of life cut my vehicle, and got me out. I was very lucky.

I had emergency surgery and was put under general anesthesia and had to take narcotic pain meds. My only injuries were 3 shattered metatarsals, a broken and dislocated talus (ankle) bone of my left foot. I had 2 plates and 14 screws placed in my foot to put it back together. My surgeon said he had to collect all the bone pieces and then piece them together to make a bone from point A to point B.

In the hospital, I waited for days wondering when and if I would miscarry. I never did. Today, she is a spirited 3 year old who reminds me every day of what I could have lost.

I spent the next 12 weeks unable to walk and every time I did need to move my foot would get this intense pressure, feeling as if it was about to explode. I woke up in night sweats after nightmares of the impact and me being unable to get out. Sheets completely soaked and I would scream and wake my family. I couldn’t have the hardware removed until I delivered my miracle. For 9 months I was either in a cast or a boot, with crutches. I had graduated from nursing school 2 years prior. 4 years later and I deal with chronic pain everyday. I was unable to return to my job that required so much waking and was recently blessed with a job working for my local school district as a nurse, where the patients mostly come to me. I went through a deep, dark depression and struggled for a long time, requiring 3 different mental health medications to get me through.

Today, I wear a semi colon tattoo on my wrist to show mental health issues are real and can happen to anyone. While I never thought about suicide, I struggled with PTSD, my life completely changed and not understanding what to do. When all the sirens, casts were gone, I was left with so much to deal with. On the outside I looked healthy but inside I was full of pain and feelings I didn’t understand. Today, I am doing much better.

I have come to accept a life of pain and refuse to take narcotic pain meds. I have went through a ton of PT and finally found a doctor who has made a difference in my pain by injecting my scars to loosen them up. These painful procedures have come from heaven as has this doctor. This week my provider and I presented to a committee with my insurance to appeal their denial to cover prolotherapy for my foot. Although they cover knees and elbows, they don’t cover ankles. They denied it again. I don’t drive much and when I do, it’s a pretty big deal. It was struggle to get me in the car, home from the hospital. We bought our house 2 months before the accident moving from Madison and after the accident I told my husband we had to sell and move back, I couldn’t drive 51 again. Luckily, they have changed it to have 2 lanes each way separated or I would have continued my move plan. I’ve lost friends, a job and other things as a result of my pain. But I am blessed to be here as so many don’t make it.

Colleen Ehle